The One idea of finding The One – find the one that you like and live your life together. Check whether she is the one, are you sure you want her be besides you for all your life? You test your skill of problem solving between both of you. You would like to go travel together, seeing how the world sees both of you as a couple. If anything went wrong through this phase, break up and find another one.

Feeling for each other is important. Everything is in the romance and your heart glows when both of you are together. You like to be in company of each other and of course, being alone is torturous. Thinking about her all the time, before sleep or after wake up is a ritual. Breakfast on the bed? A morning kiss from her, while wearing your shirt? Wow. That’s how to live a life.

All of this seems perfect, except that you are not married. If this behavior becomes a girlfriend/boyfriend custom, there will be nothing new when you get married. Your previous experience will make you want more. Romance is a normal thing for you and marriage does not offer something new.

Marriage is about going on a lifetime journey on a big ship. Both of you will discover new colors of the world as a couple, experiencing sparkling new things together and endure stormy hardships with a new strength of marriage’s bond. If you hop in the ship when you are already tired of the sea, with all the bad experiences of breakups and betrayals, it won’t be as exciting as the former case.

My idea of marriage may seem conservative or kolot but that’s how I see it. This is an incomplete post on my incomplete thought. Feel free to comment and remember, attack the idea, not the person.

  1. #1 by kaklong on May 27, 2009 - 2:33 am

    wah..this is probably the last post I ever thought that you would write about. but i guess everybody will eventually get married someday =)

    for me, i believe that marriage is not only about romance (yep, that is one of the important essence too) but also about sacrifices and having someone to complement you (not compliment..haha). someone who will be there when you’re alone. someone who will be there when you make mistakes. someone who will always support you and love you no matter what happens.

    in short, do not marry someone who you can live with but marry someone you cannot live without.

  2. #2 by kampunginvestor on May 29, 2009 - 1:16 pm

    Marriage is about having sex! Haha… Just joking! lolx..

    Seriously, i think you should open a dating blog. You will get more traffic with it.

    One thing is for sure, this Irwan is damm family oriented guy. Honest, loving and all the good values are in him.

    So to all the girls out there, miss catching Irwan meaning you have missed a gem!

    Hurry get this gem before it expires. ^ ^

  3. #3 by ChampDog on May 30, 2009 - 4:56 pm

    I used to think that I do not need to look for “The One” because my idea is I can make anyone that I like to become “The One”. So it is very easy for me to find “The One” honestly in my life. Perhaps I have low expectation?

  4. #4 by random reader on May 31, 2009 - 9:32 am

    it’s true what nisa had said..yes, irwan does talk about this stuff but I didn’t expect that he will post it up for the whole world to see haha.

    irwan, your idea of marriage is not kolot..dont rush and you will find the have so many good qualities that a women want in you.

    on a second thought, did you sengaja post this up to promote yourself? lol jk

  5. #5 by zulkifli adnan on June 14, 2009 - 2:55 am


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  6. #6 by TiM on June 15, 2009 - 10:59 am

    orang di atas patut di tendang jauh2. SIBUK je

    tumpang lalu irwan. aku ngantuk keje

  7. #7 by Afandi on July 19, 2009 - 12:23 pm


    Have you read Ustaz Hasrizal’s book-Aku Terima Nikahnya?

    May it be helpful!


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